Friday 9 August 2013

Sinful Sunday: 11th August 2013


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The Pussy Pride Project

The pussy pride project is another one of Molly's daily kiss' excellent memes and statements.  It's chief aim is to get women to feel proud of their genitals and break taboos around female genital appearance. All that's asked of participants is a brief description and explanation of their feelings and, if they are comfortable enough, images may be used.

Review: iGino One

The iGino one was a crowd funded toy, and has gathered a fair bit of interest in the sex toy community.

This is what the box looks like:

I am fairly late to the party with my ownership of this toy, so there are a fair few reviews out there already for this toy. SubReiSkyeM has done an excellent review of this product at her blog, Thoughts of a growing sub

 At a glance
I didn't really get on with this toy, despite my best efforts.  The vibrations were not right for me, my theory on this is that it is because they are high frequency.  The review mainly focuses on partner sex as this is what the toy is marketed for, although I have used it solo and include a little bit of information on that.  There's a few drawbacks of this toy through design choices as well which makes it feel like it should not be in the "luxury sex toy" category in which it is marketed.  In the review I compare it to my favorite partner sex toy, the Lovehoney mains powered wand

Main review is after the jump

Sunday 4 August 2013

The Perks of Being Single

It’s sometimes seen that being single is sucky and just wrong.  I must admit when i broke up with S I was worried about being single again and having to do things on my own. I'm still healing and taking time to be me again, but there’s some things that are making me see it’s not all bad.

Leftover pizza
Who doesn't love pizza for breakfast the next day – now a possibility for me.  I don’t have to deal with another person’s diet or food schedule.  I can cook what I want and go out for meals when I want to, without having to drag a reluctant partner along.

Not having to beg for sex.
my sex life with S wasn't too bad, but it was more on his terms than mine due to him having the lower sex drive.  Asking and wanting with nothing to show for it just upset me so much I gave up, and started resenting him.  Partner sex is awesome, but not so much if you know that even if you ask you will just end up masturbating.  My sex drive seems to be higher now than when I was in a relationship, probably because there’s no fear of rejection.

Sleeping as much as you want.
I don’t seem to sleep well when sharing a bed.  I need a lot of space and I tend to just go until I can’t any more.  Trying to sleep on someone else’s schedule was annoying, as well as having them starfish all over me.  There’s also lots of lie ins for me now, and lots of afternoon naps.

More time for my interests
There were things I liked that S didn't, and vice versa.  It was usually me that made the sacrifice of my interests rather than him, so much so that it became a major issue.  We watched his programmes, listened to his music and played the games he wanted to.  This went beyond the give and take of a normal relationship, and I felt myself feeling lethargic and just giving up.  I'm single now and can indulge in my hobbies with the spare time I have.

Being able to be me.
I have disabilities and can’t do things that others can.  S never really understood this, especially with the chronic fatigue and clumsiness that comes with dyspraxia.  It always enraged me that he wouldn't do things like take shortcuts that I needed to keep myself happy and healthy, despite me explaining why.  Now I'm single I can do what I want, and am generally healthier than when I was in the last few months of my relationship, whether that’s because of the stress of it failing being lifted, or from making sure to put my needs first again.

Flirting
As I'm single I can talk to and be flirty with who I want without feeling any guilt or loyalty.  I'm much more confident in having more than one prospective date at a time, something I wouldn't have been when I was younger.  I feel happy talking to the sexy junior doctor, while having the option of going to dinner with the IT geek I met last week.  This seems so much easier now that I have had a relationship and know what I want for myself for the future and have gotten better at communicating that to others. Of course, there's lots up in the air at the moment with things, but I'm having fun!


So there are things that I miss, like cuddles and having someone to just do day to day things with, but it’s not all bad!  The things I see now as positive might change as I deal with the emotions and fallout of splitting up, but I feel positive that I will get through this pretty soon.